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Most people like being around fun individuals. It's just human nature. People who are fun are usually quite popular among their friends, have good social lives and are rarely bored. To be one of them, is actually quite hard. But who says you have to be like them? try being yourself and start things one at a time, you have time.
Listen. Fun people don't do all the talking when it comes to conversations. Good conversations are crucial when you want to be a likable person, and sometimes you just have to be quiet and listen.
Smile and laugh. Laugh because people like people who laugh with them (not at them). This makes people happy and brightens the way they think of you.Be a happy person, not ditsy and uncaring, but optimistic.
Make eye contact. This is very important because it makes people feel like they have all of your attention, you are listening, interested in what they have to say and they are getting the attention that they deserve
Be active. In order to be fun to be with, you need to be active, to stand up, to be creative. Maybe do a "happy dance" when something good happens,
Be curious. Know what you'll be doing later. If you get turned down or rejected, move on. You never know what's going to happen until you try.
Care about yourself. In order to be a fun person, you must be confident.
Be sociable and friendly. In order to be fun to be with, you'll need to build some new relationships so people start noticing you.
Be spontaneous. Everyone likes a person who can keep things interesting. Have fun with things, be lighthearted. No one likes boredom, or to feel like nothing new ever happens.
Don't be afraid to really go out there! If you are afraid of people thinking you are weird, strange, etc., just think of the bright side. You don't need them, and hey! you're trying to meet new people anyway, so it will take your mind off the negatives.Plus who cares about what anyone else thinks. Don't let anyone label you. Be who you want to be and don't be afraid to be yourself. People hate phonies!! So go out there and rock the real you.
Know your limits, and let other people know those limits too.
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Have you found yourself pondering how to make that new person in your life be friends with you? Want to get closer and demonstrate your support, loyalty and love to your mates? And in the process, show your pals how you would like to be treated, too?
Are you trying to be friends with someone to be accepted into a certain group, or because you'd like to get to know someone else that he or she knows? that is not friendship, it's taking advantage of people.
Every new person you meet has the right to be accepted (or not) on his or her own merits, its better to just be yourself than let anyone else influence you into being someone you are not.
Be honest. A dishonest person has no chance of having true friends. Keep your promises, do what you say you are going to do, and most importantly, don't lie! Lying leads to more lies, and people will eventually figure you out.
If you did lie, confess to him and hope he forgives you, even though you know it'll hurt him.These are what friends do, so don't worry.
Be loyal. If your friend tells you something in confidence, don't blab about it to anyone else. Don't talk about your friend behind his/her back.
Nobody likes a backstabber!! Don't let others say bad things about your friend until you've had a chance to hear your friend's side of the story.
Be respectful. Things you guys discuss should be treated with care - your friend is not sharing this information with just anyone, and may not want to. He shared it with you - and only you.
Watch his back. Take notes for your friend and give them their homework when they're absent and sick at home. Visit them. If he is in trouble or going to get into one, get in there and advice him on what he should not be doing.
Pitch in for friends during times of crisis, don't let him do something that will ruin his life. If your friend is going through a crisis though, it's best to not tell them everything is going to be all right if it's not going to be.
Don't judge your friend, but do advise to stay out of situations where they may harm themselves or others. Tell him/her how you perceive his/her situation, and what you might do in the same circumstances.
Don't be offended if they listen to your advice and then decide to ignore it. Your friend must make his or her own decisions. Avoid saying "You should...".
Give your friend space. Understand if he/she wants to be alone or hang out with other people. Allow it to happen. There's no need to become clingy or needy.
Never make a promise you know you can't keep. Good friendship is based on trust - if you break a friend's trust, the friendship may be very hard to salvage.
Of course, if you have made a promise and planned to keep it, but circumstances beyond your control conspire to prevent it, let your friend know as soon as you find out.
Listen to them. you don't have to agree with them - just listen to what they have to say. Make sure they are talking too and you are not just running your mouth. Some people don't really find it interesting listening to someone talk about their feelings 24/7.
Don't abuse their generosity or "wear out your welcome" If your friend does something nice for you, then reciprocate. Money doesn't have to be an issue.
Don't use your friends! Don't let them pay every time you go out, even if they offer. Don't help yourself to things at their house without asking, unless you are willing and they do the same at your house.
Also, if you end the friendship then you should return any gifts they bought for you, especially if they gave you any gifts under false pretences. It's proper etiquette.
Live by the golden rule. Always treat a friend as you would want to be treated. If you don't there will be repercussions. Don't do or say anything to them that you wouldn't want done to you.
Be there for them through thick and thin as long as they are a TRUE friend to you. Also learn to forgive, and apologize. Don't be a brat!
Are you trying to be friends with someone to be accepted into a certain group, or because you'd like to get to know someone else that he or she knows? that is not friendship, it's taking advantage of people.
Every new person you meet has the right to be accepted (or not) on his or her own merits, its better to just be yourself than let anyone else influence you into being someone you are not.
Be honest. A dishonest person has no chance of having true friends. Keep your promises, do what you say you are going to do, and most importantly, don't lie! Lying leads to more lies, and people will eventually figure you out.
If you did lie, confess to him and hope he forgives you, even though you know it'll hurt him.These are what friends do, so don't worry.
Be loyal. If your friend tells you something in confidence, don't blab about it to anyone else. Don't talk about your friend behind his/her back.
Nobody likes a backstabber!! Don't let others say bad things about your friend until you've had a chance to hear your friend's side of the story.
Be respectful. Things you guys discuss should be treated with care - your friend is not sharing this information with just anyone, and may not want to. He shared it with you - and only you.
Watch his back. Take notes for your friend and give them their homework when they're absent and sick at home. Visit them. If he is in trouble or going to get into one, get in there and advice him on what he should not be doing.
Pitch in for friends during times of crisis, don't let him do something that will ruin his life. If your friend is going through a crisis though, it's best to not tell them everything is going to be all right if it's not going to be.
Don't judge your friend, but do advise to stay out of situations where they may harm themselves or others. Tell him/her how you perceive his/her situation, and what you might do in the same circumstances.
Don't be offended if they listen to your advice and then decide to ignore it. Your friend must make his or her own decisions. Avoid saying "You should...".
Give your friend space. Understand if he/she wants to be alone or hang out with other people. Allow it to happen. There's no need to become clingy or needy.
Never make a promise you know you can't keep. Good friendship is based on trust - if you break a friend's trust, the friendship may be very hard to salvage.
Of course, if you have made a promise and planned to keep it, but circumstances beyond your control conspire to prevent it, let your friend know as soon as you find out.
Listen to them. you don't have to agree with them - just listen to what they have to say. Make sure they are talking too and you are not just running your mouth. Some people don't really find it interesting listening to someone talk about their feelings 24/7.
Don't abuse their generosity or "wear out your welcome" If your friend does something nice for you, then reciprocate. Money doesn't have to be an issue.
Don't use your friends! Don't let them pay every time you go out, even if they offer. Don't help yourself to things at their house without asking, unless you are willing and they do the same at your house.
Also, if you end the friendship then you should return any gifts they bought for you, especially if they gave you any gifts under false pretences. It's proper etiquette.
Live by the golden rule. Always treat a friend as you would want to be treated. If you don't there will be repercussions. Don't do or say anything to them that you wouldn't want done to you.
Be there for them through thick and thin as long as they are a TRUE friend to you. Also learn to forgive, and apologize. Don't be a brat!
- Make sure your friend doesn't have to spend a birthday alone. You can hold a party for them (even a surprise party if you can keep a secret) or take them out to dinner and pay for their meal.
- Have fun. It's not all about bleeding hearts and advice to the lovelorn - or at least, it shouldn't be. Decorate your friend's locker on his or her birthday, have a spa party, host a sleepover, whatever. Join activities with them.
- You don't have to spend a lot of money to be a good friend. The best gifts are often hand-made and come from the heart.
- Don't set too many expectations and rules. That's just trapping others in your dimension.
- Allowing your friendship to evolve and change naturally is really best - it allows your friend to be as unique and individual as you are, and for both of you to enjoy one another in that light.
- If someone is in any difficulty and he/she behaves in a way that's very hurtful to you, then don't be angry and try to understand their problems.
- Don't be needy and greedy by taking up all your friend's time. This could get extremely annoying and irritating. He/she will WANT to get rid of you if you become needy. Relax and trust in your friendship, and allow each other the freedom to be with each other, or with others, or just alone.If your friend doesn't treat you the same way, get rid of them.
- If you treat them well, there's absolutely no reason why you shouldn't expect the same treatment. Don't stay with a friend who doesn't treat you well.
- Give them a hug. You are friends, not strangers, after all. Just stay honest, but upbeat and positive. Even a stranger would most probably appreciate it.
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Have you always wanted to be the cool guy, who always seems to do the right thing? Or are you dying to be the cool girl, If you think about all the people who you think of as cool, you'll find that they have several characteristics in common: they're all confident, unique, and on friendly terms with everyone. There's no reason you can't be like that yourself.
Act like you don't care about what others think. We will always, on some level, be concerned with others' opinions of ourselves, but realize that ultimately, you will never be able to please everyone, so why bother trying?
Be aware of how people perceive you. What you are really doing is learning how to better perceive yourself. In terms of physical appearance, beware of food getting stuck in your teeth, bad breath, body odor. Try not to stare too much (it makes people uncomfortable), stand/sit up straight (it makes you look and feel more confident), smile generously,be polite and considerate.
Find real friends . For example, if people don't hang out with you because you don't wear designer clothes, they are not real friends. If the people standing in front of you can't see you for you, then how can they be your friend?
Don't be afraid to be different, whether that means standing up for yourself, defending someone else, or taking interest in something that no one else does. The coolest people are the ones who occasionally break against the tide and make people question the status quo.
Cool people say what they mean, and mean what they say. Be confident in your word and don't let anyone try and change it. If you state your opinion and people disagree, don't worry. You said what you felt and people will respect you for that, unless you use it knowing it will offend someone.
Change your attitude--if you have a negative attitude change it. Cool people always have a positive attitude. No one likes a negative person. When people get to know you and see that you always have a positive look on things even when things are not going your way, they will enjoy your company.
Act like you don't care about what others think. We will always, on some level, be concerned with others' opinions of ourselves, but realize that ultimately, you will never be able to please everyone, so why bother trying?
Be aware of how people perceive you. What you are really doing is learning how to better perceive yourself. In terms of physical appearance, beware of food getting stuck in your teeth, bad breath, body odor. Try not to stare too much (it makes people uncomfortable), stand/sit up straight (it makes you look and feel more confident), smile generously,be polite and considerate.
Find real friends . For example, if people don't hang out with you because you don't wear designer clothes, they are not real friends. If the people standing in front of you can't see you for you, then how can they be your friend?
Don't be afraid to be different, whether that means standing up for yourself, defending someone else, or taking interest in something that no one else does. The coolest people are the ones who occasionally break against the tide and make people question the status quo.
Cool people say what they mean, and mean what they say. Be confident in your word and don't let anyone try and change it. If you state your opinion and people disagree, don't worry. You said what you felt and people will respect you for that, unless you use it knowing it will offend someone.
Change your attitude--if you have a negative attitude change it. Cool people always have a positive attitude. No one likes a negative person. When people get to know you and see that you always have a positive look on things even when things are not going your way, they will enjoy your company.
- There is no textbook definition of cool. Some people may think it's cool to have drugs or drink and drive etc.
- Don't base your coolness on making others seem uncool. You'll make more enemies than friends that way. People aren't going to worship someone who bosses or beats them around all the time. They'll be scared maybe, but they won't respect you.
- Don't lose sight of yourself or your morals. Being cool isn't about changing who you are, its about being confident enough to let people see how awesome you really are.
- Being cool can be a challenge. A lot of people who aren't cool can slow your path to coolness down. So if something puts you in a bad mood, it's good to have reminders of your end goal of being awesomely cool. Also if your mood distracts you enough for you to forget your end goal reminders can help you stay positive.
- You get the coolest by staying cool the longest. Practice makes perfect.
- If you are accepting of others and include people, others will be attracted to your level of confidence of socializing and thus consider you cool to hang around with.
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I've now gotten the three tabs above (home,about,archive) to work now, enjoy ^.^
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It's going to take a while but I'm going to do a complete makeover on my blog, hope you all will like it. Btw I couldn't online for so long cuz of exam so didn't update anything
