Do you like making friends?

Have you found yourself pondering how to make that new person in your life be friends with you? Want to get closer and demonstrate your support, loyalty and love to your mates? And in the process, show your pals how you would like to be treated, too?

Are you trying to be friends with someone to be accepted into a certain group, or because you'd like to get to know someone else that he or she knows? that is not friendship, it's taking advantage of people.

Every new person you meet has the right to be accepted (or not) on his or her own merits, its better to just be yourself than let anyone else influence you into being someone you are not.

Be honest. A dishonest person has no chance of having true friends. Keep your promises, do what you say you are going to do, and most importantly, don't lie! Lying leads to more lies, and people will eventually figure you out. 

If you did lie, confess to him and hope he forgives you, even though you know it'll hurt him.These are what friends do, so don't worry.


Be loyal. If your friend tells you something in confidence, don't blab about it to anyone else. Don't talk about your friend behind his/her back. 

Nobody likes a backstabber!! Don't let others say bad things about your friend until you've had a chance to hear your friend's side of the story.

Be respectful. Things you guys discuss should be treated with care - your friend is not sharing this information with just anyone, and may not want to. He shared it with you - and only you.

Watch his back. Take notes for your friend and give them their homework when they're absent and sick at home. Visit them. If he is in trouble or going to get into one, get in there and advice him on what he should not be doing.


Pitch in for friends during times of crisis, don't let him do something that will ruin his life. If your friend is going through a crisis though, it's best to not tell them everything is going to be all right if it's not going to be. 

Don't judge your friend, but do advise to stay out of situations where they may harm themselves or others. Tell him/her how you perceive his/her situation, and what you might do in the same circumstances. 

Don't be offended if they listen to your advice and then decide to ignore it. Your friend must make his or her own decisions. Avoid saying "You should...".

Give your friend space. Understand if he/she wants to be alone or hang out with other people. Allow it to happen. There's no need to become clingy or needy.

Never make a promise you know you can't keep. Good friendship is based on trust - if you break a friend's trust, the friendship may be very hard to salvage. 

Of course, if you have made a promise and planned to keep it, but circumstances beyond your control conspire to prevent it, let your friend know as soon as you find out.

Listen to them. you don't have to agree with them - just listen to what they have to say. Make sure they are talking too and you are not just running your mouth. Some people don't really find it interesting listening to someone talk about their feelings 24/7.

Don't abuse their generosity or "wear out your welcome" If your friend does something nice for you, then reciprocate. Money doesn't have to be an issue. 

Don't use your friends! Don't let them pay every time you go out, even if they offer. Don't help yourself to things at their house without asking, unless you are willing and they do the same at your house.

Also, if you end the friendship then you should return any gifts they bought for you, especially if they gave you any gifts under false pretences. It's proper etiquette.

Live by the golden rule. Always treat a friend as you would want to be treated. If you don't there will be repercussions. Don't do or say anything to them that you wouldn't want done to you.

Be there for them through thick and thin as long as they are a TRUE friend to you. Also learn to forgive, and apologize. Don't be a brat!

• Make sure your friend doesn't have to spend a birthday alone. You can hold a party for them (even a surprise party if you can keep a secret) or take them out to dinner and pay for their meal.
• Have fun. It's not all about bleeding hearts and advice to the lovelorn - or at least, it shouldn't be. Decorate your friend's locker on his or her birthday, have a spa party, host a sleepover, whatever. Join activities with them.
• You don't have to spend a lot of money to be a good friend. The best gifts are often hand-made and come from the heart.
• Don't set too many expectations and rules. That's just trapping others in your dimension. 
•  Allowing your friendship to evolve and change naturally is really best - it allows your friend to be as unique and individual as you are, and for both of you to enjoy one another in that light.
• If someone is in any difficulty and he/she behaves in a way that's very hurtful to you, then don't be angry and try to understand their problems.
• Don't be needy and greedy by taking up all your friend's time. This could get extremely annoying and irritating. He/she will WANT to get rid of you if you become needy. Relax and trust in your friendship, and allow each other the freedom to be with each other, or with others, or just alone.If your friend doesn't treat you the same way, get rid of them.
• If you treat them well, there's absolutely no reason why you shouldn't expect the same treatment. Don't stay with a friend who doesn't treat you well. 
•  Give them a hug. You are friends, not strangers, after all. Just stay honest, but upbeat and positive. Even a stranger would most probably appreciate it.